Bondage - Why Do People On Both Sides Do It?Bondage - Why Do People On Both Sides Do It? For some, the appeal of bondage is a mystery. Why do some people enjoy being dominated? Just as relevant is the question of why some people enjoy dominating others. Some people who are involved in these type of activities may not even be completely clear themselves about what compels them to do it. In this article, we'll be looking at some of the possible reasons why bondage, S&M and domination have always been popular.

What's the Appeal of Being Dominated?

Many people, both male and female, find it thrilling and sexually stimulating to be in a submissive situation. In everyday situations and relationships, this can be quite subtle. One partner in the relationship may naturally be more aggressive or dominant, if only in a verbal or psychological way.

Yet some people take this to the next level and seek out blatant, physical type of domination. This may involve seeking out a

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or it may involve partners play acting different parts. This can take many different forms. In some cases, the main thrill may be the sensation of being tied up or restricted physically. A common variation of this involves tying someone up with rope, scarves or handcuffs. In this type of scenario, both parties find it thrilling and stimulating to act out a situation where one person is completely at the mercy of the other.

There is a whole spectrum of possibilities when it comes to bondage and S & M. It can be anything from simple restraint to verbal abuse to something more extreme. In some cases, the submissive party wants to experience more than bondage. He or she may want to experience actual pain. The dominant partner in the relationship may administer punishment, either using her body or an object such as a cane, whip or other implement.

A

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can be a professional who is paid or it can be one partner who is simply acting out this part. Either way, the particular actions depend on the preferences and fantasies of both parties. Why do some people find it stimulating and exciting to be dominated? There are many theories about this, and the reasons can vary from one person to the next. In some cases, a person may have the need to re-enact certain early experiences. Some people who were severely disciplined or even abused, either verbally or physically as children develop a need to have these experiences repeated as adults. They may develop a fetish where such stimuli are essential for sexual arousal.

For some people, being submissive or dominated is something they require to balance out their lives. Some very successful men and women, for example, who are in positions of authority in the everyday lives, like to experience the other side of the coin. They may visit a

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to experience the relief of not being in control for a while.

Why Do Some People Like to Dominate Others?

As noted, there are various reasons why someone might want to be controlled, dominated or even hurt. The other side of the coin is the

dominatrix

who gets pleasure out of dominating others. Of course, for some people the main incentive may be financial. Certain escorts, online and phone sex workers and prostitutes will do whatever the client wants. However, there is also the case of the natural

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who actually seeks out this type of experience.

Just as a variety of experiences can lead people to want to experience being dominated, others find that being in control turns them on. There is not always a clearcut reason for what people find stimulating. When it comes to S&M type situations, one person may prefer the dominant role, while the other may prefer being submissive. In other cases, roles may be reversed for variety.

Long Term Relationships Involving Bondage

In some cases, relationships involving submission, bondage or S & M may become long term. This may involve financial transactions or it may simply be a mutually satisfying arrangement between a

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and a submissive. A man, for example, may pay a

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in cash or by performing various mundane services for her. Some people play the role of slave and serve a

mistress

by doing chores for her such as cleaning her house or whatever else she may need. Such an arrangement may or may not include sexual encounters.

Less formal arrangements are also common, where one person plays the role of

mistress

or

dominatrix

, the other of servant or slave. Such a scenario can form out of a more conventional relationship, as people discover they have certain preferences that they didn't originally know they had. On the other hand, people who are well aware of these preferences may openly seek out or advertise for a partner who fulfills their needs.

Bondage is a Complex Issue

There are no simple answers to why some people enjoy bondage, S & M or the services of a

dominatrix

. While a psychologist might be able to uncover early experiences that explain it, in other cases it may just be the way certain people are wired. Just as people have different sexual preferences such as straight, gay or bi, some people have a taste for activities such as bondage.
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