Domination: the relationship between slave and mistressDomination: the relationship between slave and

mistress

BDSM.

Tying up.

Flogging.

Control.

All these things and more – so much more – are involved in the

dominatrix

/slave relationship. Sounds unconventional, doesn’t it? Maybe even downright kinky. In some circles, yes. But for others, it is a way of life and not the least bit unconventional at all.

What is a

Dominatrix

?
A

dominatrix

or

mistress

is a woman who gives the orders in the relationship. She is generally characterized as wearing leather or latex, corset, fishnet stockings, and heels. While these stereotypes do exist, the woman does not have to dress in that type of ensemble to embody

dominatrix

qualities.

The Role of the Slave
The slave or submissive is the person doing the dominant's bidding. This individual is a willing partner in the relationship. Portrayals that allude to a forced relationship are simply not true depictions of the slave and their role in this activity.

The Relationship
The relationship between dominant and slave is quite intricate. There is a great deal of trust that must be had between the two people for this activity to be beneficial. Whether the two are comprised of a couple assuming the roles or if an individual seeks out a partner, the two must be comfortable with each other to allow themselves to fully embody their roles.

Interestingly enough, while it seems that the dominant is in control at all times, the person controlling the pace of the activity is the slave. It is the slave who determines if the activity they are engaging in is too much for them to handle or if they want more. There are universal safe words that every one should know before engaging in the activity: Red means ‘Stop’, Yellow means ‘Keep it right there’ and Green means 'Give me more.’ The dominant must adhere to the cues given by the slave or the activity turns into something undesirable.

Both participants rely heavily upon each other for the activity to be successful. Both needs must be met – the dominant's need to control the situation and, indeed, the submissive, and the slave’s need to be controlled. Sexual gratification is often a part of the activity, but not always. The denial of such is much more an important aspect of the role play.

What happens?
Anything you want!

Most people think of the dominant person being male and the submissive being female but there are at least as many

mistress

/slave relationships. Both men and women enjoy the feeling of control and submission at differing intervals. What is displayed on movies is not exactly what happens in real life.

The two people agree upon the parameters of the experience ahead of time. Activities can include:

· Spanking – the key to a pleasurable spanking being the control displayed in both the rough and gentle strokes
· Flogging – spanking with a fringed whip
· Restraining – tying hands and/or legs to a post or together with a rope, handcuffs, or other materials
· Order and response – the

dominatrix

orders the submissive to complete tasks that are either related or unrelated to the activity at hand

Why would someone engage in this activity?
There are many reasons that a person would enjoy a

dominatrix

/slave relationship. The control, or lack there of, is enticing on its own. The ability to control a person’s behavior and make them behave in the manner that you choose is intoxicating and keeps people coming back for more. Once the parameters for the experience have been determined, this level of interaction can prove to be stimulating for both parties as they simultaneously take and lose control. For instance, an executive that makes decisions all day long might enjoy having that power taken out of his hands every once in a while. The simple pleasure of cause and effect without deviance is also alluring to many. Pleasing someone by being obedient is a simple pleasure that many find happiness within.

The dominant has a similar motivation, albeit from another angle. Administering measured control over a person is gratifying. A person who does not hold a role in their daily life that allows them to be the person that others answer to might find the

dominatrix

role appealing on an emotional and sensual level.

Tease and denial is perhaps the most exciting part of the

dominatrix

/slave interaction. It takes teasing to another level. Offering oneself as a reward in either physical form or an emotional response, and then keeping at arms length gives both the dominant and the submissive a terrible pleasure that intensifies the experience. Pushing the submissive to the edge, teasing them with the tools and rewards that most satisfy them, making them long to get them – making them long for release – is one of the most erotic forms of control that can be exhibited over another person.

It is typical for orgasm to be reached without ever being touched in these experiences. For that reason alone, the dominant/submissive experience is one worth investigating on your list of life’s firsts.

Does this sound kinky to you now? Or does it sound like an exploration of interests, both physical and emotional? Does it sound like an experiment in pleasure? Are you thinking back to your own encounters and remembering some of the moments where you engaged in a little control play? Is that kinky? Maybe it is a little bit. But what is definitely true is that the

mistress

/slave experience is sensual, safe, and satisfying to both parties in ways that can’t be imagined without trying it.
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